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7 March 2025

It's the principle of the thing

by Rachel Shu

Status: will revise
Meaningfulness: effort post


Co-written with Claude (transcript here).

Rachel Shu’s comments:

Austin Chen’s comments:

It’s the Principle of The Thing

People get mad about weird stuff. Your roommate moves your carefully arranged desk. Your coworker takes your pen and doesn’t return it. These are objectively trivial annoyances, yet you find yourself disproportionately angry, and when pressed you say: “It’s the principle of the thing.”

That phrase is a confession. You’re admitting the object-level harm doesn’t really matter. But you’re also saying something deeper. You’re gesturing at an implicit expected value calculation - one I think is worth making explicit.

The math you’re actually doing

When someone crosses a boundary, you’re not just reacting to the immediate harm (often tiny). Your brain is computing something roughly like:

\[P = D + ∑(p_i × F_i) + E + I\]

Where:

You object “on principle” when $P$ exceeds your personal threshold $T$.

Why this creates interpersonal nuclear war

These outbursts cause unnecessary social friction because:

  1. They see $D$ (tiny), while you’re calculating the entire function
  2. Different discount rates (they undervalue your future convenience)
  3. You don’t know their intent or the probability of recurrence
  4. People have radically different thresholds for what matters

If you don’t have common ground on what “it’s the principle of the thing” mentally stands for, it’s hard to find resolution.

When to just drop it

Install hearing yourself say or think “It’s the principle of the thing” as a trigger for explicitly estimating the above algorithm. A lot of times we feel that a particular value is sacred because either something needs to track a valuable part of it that we’re not explicitly tracking or able to articulate. (I might have more on this in a future post, for now Eliezer Yudkowsky’s post Feeling Moral covers a lot of what I mean to say).

This might serve as a good starting point for communicating what your needs are to the person who’s making you feel hurt in this situation. And at other times, you’ll run this calculation and realize:

\[D + ∑(p_i × F_i) + E + I ≈ 0\]

If the immediate harm is trivial AND you don’t expect recurrence AND standing your ground costs significant social capital AND it’s not core to your identity… then consider whether you’re standing on the right principle.

Better ways to handle principle violations

Instead of getting trapped in “why are you overreacting?” versus “it’s the principle!”:

  1. Name the actual concern: “I’m worried this will become a pattern”
  2. Get future commitments instead of assigning blame
  3. Assess the enforcement cost honestly
  4. Check whether you’re really protecting something important or just feeling neurotic

Principles exist as cognitive shortcuts. They’re cached decisions that save us from having to calculate complex social dynamics from scratch every time. But when defending a principle costs more than the violation itself, your cognitive shortcut has become inefficient.

tags: policy

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